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Rockin' Out Interview: Tegan and Sara's Tegan Quin

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Tegan and Sara are identical twin singer-songwriters from Canada. The duo garnered mainstream attention after the White Stripes covered 'Walking With a Ghost,' off the sisters' 2004 album 'So Jealous,' along with cuts on both the 'Grey's Anatomy' and 'Veronica Mars' soundtracks. Tegan and Sara will release their new album, 'The Con' -- co-produced by Death Cab for Cutie's Chris Walla -- on July 24.

What age did you begin to question your sexuality?


I never actually questioned my sexuality. I had a lot of gay friends. Sara started dating a girl when we were like, 15, and I feel like I always had this natural attraction for girls. I didn't feel torment or inner struggle. I was still kind of happy to date boys, too. I was much more interested in girls than boys, but it wasn't until I was maybe 16 that I actively dated a girl. I didn't feel an instinct to tell everyone. I was definitely a little more reserved, but people were very experimental around me, so I didn't attach anything negative to it.

Who was the first person who you came out to?


I don't remember ever having to do the whole "I have to tell you something -- I'm gay" thing. Sara kind of did all of the work for me because she dated girls, got found out and had to tell our mom. Our mom freaked out and then kind of came around. I just watched the whole thing and was like, "By the way, this is my girlfriend." The damage was done. Everything had been figured out. A lot of my friends in Vancouver were like, "It's so weird how you never really came out." But there are so many assumptions about twins. Sara was gay, so people weren't weirded out when I turned out to be gay, too.

Did you and Sara talk about any of this to each other?

No. I mean, we're weird now. Recently, Sara touched my arm and was like, "I found out that touching you was like touching me. So this is what it's like to touch me." And I was like, "Ew, what? Do you want to do acid? Relax." And she was like, "It's just so weird!" We're not really comfortable having those kinds of talks. And, at 14, the last thing I was going to do was invite Sara in for a chat about sexuality.

Sara and I have always had this really weird thing where we don't even really like to hug. There's unspoken things between twins. We were never the gabby, gossipy girls in our room talking about girls or boys. We were extremely independent of one another. We never really talked about relationships or anything, so in our late teens we didn't get along with each other. We had the same friends, we played in a band -- and that was when we really started dating girls, but we really didn't talk about any of those things. We talk about girls now. But I didn't feel a burning desire to share it with anyone then. If anything, I felt like I wanted to keep it a secret because it was so amazing and I didn't want it to get ruined.

What was your first relationship like?

It was pretty great. We were young. I was having a moment of extreme nostalgia recently and I was like, "Oh, I guess there was a lot of drama that I don't remember," but of course there was drama with both of us traveling. We didn't say things like, "I want you to be my girlfriend, I want to marry you or I want to be with you forever." It was like, "I want to be friends forever." And now she's straight -- she never dated girls after me. I was just excited to be there and have what we had. It was very intense. We spent a lot of time together, and it was my first feeling of being in love.

Are your girlfriends welcomed by your family?

Oh, yeah. Initially, my mom was definitely upset with Sara. She was like, "You're a musician and now you're gay. You're going to have a lot of challenges." Every mother's dream is when they have baby girls, that they'll get married and whatever. But my mom later came around. She said, "You're happy and that's all that matters. If you can't find the person you're going to be with in a man, I would want you find them whoever they are."

I don't remember coming up against any resistance in terms of my family. My mom kind of made it her own and told everyone. She was like, "Don't you want to tell your aunt and uncle?" [laughs]. My grandmother passed away a few years ago, and at the funeral my mom was like, "This is Tegan's girlfriend. They live together and they love each other." And my 88-year-old aunt was like, "Oh, that's great! Beautiful friend!" I was like, "Mom, does Aunt Stella really need to know?" My grandfather just likes to flirt with our girlfriends. He likes that there are hot girls around.

I think, on some level, that some of our older family members are silently glad their children aren't gay. We're still at a point where it's not the easiest thing in the world for everyone. It's not something you wish on people -- to be different. But at some point it won't matter. It doesn't in my world but I'm a musician and I'm alternative. It's a lot easier for me.

The two of you aren't strangers to a number of labels. Does the "gay" one feel the most restrictive, professionally?

Not really. Initially, nobody asked anything. We didn't have to talk about it. You're a new musician, so no one gives a shit about who you're dating. When we put out our second album, so much focus was on us being twins, girls, gay, Canadian. I was like, "Holy shit, that's a lot of labels!" We spent the last two records trying to shake off the limitations. But I didn't think the gay label was the biggest; I thought being a girl in a rock band was. They were always comparing us to other female musicians who we didn't sound like. I feel like I put up more of a resistance to that. When people were writing that we were a Lilith Fair band that sounds like Alanis Morissette, I was like, "Really? That's all you can come up with?"

The gay thing doesn't bother me. I think it's important to our demographic. Our fan base is getting really young, and it's important to me to make sure that we're spreading a very honest message. I'm glad there's no part of us that has been reluctant to share who we are. There's still so much homophobia, sexism and racism in younger generations, and yet these kids love us anyway. I think we have a very progressive message. I haven't seen [gay] as a limitation.

Right. It's another detail, just like your hair is brown.

Exactly. I mean, there are moments when you're at an event -- if someone's like, "So, do you have a boyfriend?" In those situations, I think of what I'm going to say. But when I wake up, it's certainly not the first thing on my mind. I'm not like, "I'm gay!" I'm usually like, "I'm starving!"

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Elise

Tegan and Sara are gorgeous, talented, funny, sweet, and honest. What more could you ask for in a girl?

October 31 2010 at 10:55 AM Report abuse Permalink rate up rate down Reply
pwnd

I think Tegan and Sara are doing a great thing. They're amazing people and they are definitely sending out a good message to their fans and to the world. It's okay to be who you are and it's important for people to know that. It was for me, anyway. :)

By the way, "Dr. Mark". http://www.prayerconference.org/2009/speakers.html Is that you? If so, what the hell are you doing here? While I do enjoy your entertaining comments, please do shut up. Thanks.

May 03 2010 at 10:29 AM Report abuse Permalink rate up rate down Reply
Olivia

Wow this Dr. Mark guy is crazy. So what if they are gay? They decided to choose a different path then you would so you grow up and stop with the negativity. Being gay is like being white or black or asian or italian. You can't help who you are. If I was in love with a woman I sure as hell would date one and say fuck the people who don't agree with it because its 2010. Asshole.

April 08 2010 at 9:10 PM Report abuse Permalink rate up rate down Reply
Jameson

I'm not sure how one can be hotter than the other, They are Identical right?
But anyway I like your guyses music, if guyses is a word. I don't really care that you are gay, Im a guy and I would still love to have both of you over for a night ;)
I'm straight to, but gayness doesn't really bother that much, I can deal.
Love your music.

March 28 2010 at 9:46 PM Report abuse Permalink rate up rate down Reply
Jess

They're both absolutely gorgeous. They make fantastic music and their voices are incredible.

I love Tegan and Sara

March 24 2010 at 9:29 AM Report abuse Permalink rate up rate down Reply
matt

even thoe and tegan and sara are gay i would still marry or go out with them.there so funny and talented

March 12 2010 at 3:46 PM Report abuse Permalink rate up rate down Reply
Kylie Jo

I agree with you! and this "dr mark" above me needs to quit hating on gay people. Some gay couples have lasted longer than several straight ones. I think he's just feeling sorry for himself and taking it out on other people.

March 11 2010 at 5:11 PM Report abuse Permalink rate up rate down Reply
Kylie Jo

Tegan and Sara are amazing musicians who deserve praise for sending a good message and for putting up with ignorant people. I hadn't known about them until recently when one of my friends mentioned them. But never in my life have I been able to relate to song lyrics so well~and with such good guitars! Who cares if people are gay, I am but no one makes it a big deal, and so it should not worry people, because everyone deserves to love and be loved.period.

March 11 2010 at 5:08 PM Report abuse Permalink rate up rate down Reply
Jls

I love tegan and sara. They rock my world.
and NotaDRbutsmarterthanU, I agree. I think your comment was true, and well spoken. I hope that some day ignorant people such as "Dr Mark" learn to grow up, seriously.

February 06 2010 at 10:14 AM Report abuse Permalink rate up rate down Reply
Rob

Awesome Tegan and Sara gay rights video and interview - http://bit.ly/3bfgju

November 11 2009 at 3:42 AM Report abuse Permalink rate up rate down Reply
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