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    New Song 'Lucy' Helped Julian Lennon Forgive His Father

    • Posted on Nov 27th 2009 2:30PM by Steve Baltin
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    Julian LennonJulian Lennon's new song, 'Lucy,' bears a familiar name to Beatle fans. Indeed, the song, co-written with James Scott Cook, was partially inspired by his childhood friend, Lucy Vodden, the same woman his father John Lennon made famous in 'Lucy in the Sky With Diamonds.'

    For Lennon to be able to musically embrace his past is a big step. "I had to be very much at a certain point in my life to be able to accept this and feel it was right to do it now," he tells Spinner. "As many out there know, for a long time I wouldn't say that I shunned dad or the Beatles, but I certainly side-stepped them and wanted to carve my own path, so to speak."

    That he is ready to do this is an even bigger victory for him personally. "I think it was coming to terms with a lot of issues I felt I needed to deal with," he says. "I went through quite a few issues with dad."

    Those problems have been well documented. After the elder Lennon left Julian's mother Cynthia for Yoko Ono, the couple moved to New York, leaving father and son largely estranged for years. The messy divorce that ensued only strained the relationship further, and John's parenting efforts focused on Sean, his younger son whom he fathered with Ono.

    Adding insult to injury, Lennon had stated in interviews that Sean's birth was planned, whereas Julian's was not. Though the two went for years without speaking, Julian and his father reconciled shortly during his brief relationship with May Pang, before John was tragically gunned down by Mark David Chapman in 1980, just a few years later.

    Although the pair reconnected for a short time before John's death, Lennon admits truly forgiving his dad was something that he's only recently come to understand with age. "There's only so much bitterness and anger one can carry in life without it taking you to the grave. It was time for me to grow up in many respects," he says.

    Songwriting, which he calls "a cathartic experience," has helped him come to grips with his past, particularly on his forthcoming 2010 album 'Everything Changes.' "One has to reach a point of forgiveness -- and I'd done that, but I hadn't really taken it to heart for a long time. It's only in recent years and probably partially through the writing of this album."

    The song -- which is a benefit for Lupus, the same disease that afflicted Vodden and Cook's grandmother, also named Lucy -- also helps keep this 40-year-old story alive.

    "I guess you could say it's quite poignant 'cause it's bringing to light for future generations the whole history of where this came from and why I'm doing what I'm doing now," he says, regarding the charity aspect of the song. "It's a great, honest and true story -- it's like passing a story down to your children or grandchildren, except in my case it seems to be the world."

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    The Story of the Beatles in Pictures
    Hey Jules: "Uncle Paul" holds Julian Lennon while vacationing in Greece, 1967. John and Cynthia Lennon's breakup inspired McCartney to write 'Hey Jude,' originally called 'Hey Jules,' to comfort young Julian.
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    The Beatles in Pictures

      The Best of Cellars: The Beatles, with original drummer Pete Best, shake the walls during a session at Liverpool's Cavern Club, ca. 1961. The group played at the dank, cramped underground venue a whopping 292 times from 1961 to 1963.

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      Teddy Boy: A pre-moptop teenage George Harrison cuts a tough figure in Hamburg, Germany, 1961. At one point during the Beatles' musical residency in the port city's red-light district the Reeperbahn, the 17-year-old guitarist was deported from Germany for being underage.

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      The Beatles Are Here: The Fab Four play for a record 73 million viewers on their 'Ed Sullivan Show' debut, Feb. 9, 1964. The Beatles performed four songs – broken up into two sets -- beginning with 'All My Loving' and 'Till There Was You' and concluding with 'She Loves You' and their No. 1 hit at the time, 'I Want to Hold Your Hand.'

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      A Rilly Big Shew: Paul McCartney shows Ed Sullivan a few tasty bass licks during an 'Ed Sullivan Show' rehearsal, 1964. The Beatles appeared nine times on the high-rated variety program, either live or on videotape.

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      Swimming in Success: The Beatles take a break from taking a break in Miami Beach to rehearse for their show at the Deauville Hotel, which was broadcast on 'The Ed Sullivan Show' of Feb. 16, 1964.

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      Badges of Honor: In 1964, Beatlemania was treated as a fad, grouped in with the Dave Clark Five and sexual liberation, as seen in this array of pinbacks for sale.

      Redferns

      Another Fab Four: Not just the girls went mad for the Beatles. These British lads cultivate their own moptops and sport Beatle boots, ca. 1964.

      Time & Life Pictures / Getty Image

      John, Paul, George ... and Jimmy?: The Beatles give encouragement to drummer Jimmy Nicol, who substituted for an ill Ringo during the band's Australian tour in 1964. Nicol's reply to his temporary bandmates' questions about his progress inspired the song 'Getting Better.'

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      My Boys: Brian Epstein at home in London, 1964. Epstein, who died in 1967, became the Beatles' manager in 1961. Not long after, he would make the grandiose claim that his unsigned group would one day be "bigger than Elvis."

      Keystone / ZUMA Press

      Shall We Dance?: Ringo Starr and George Harrison trip the light fantastic with their mothers, Elsie Graves and Louise Harrison, respectively, at the premiere party for the Beatles' first film, 'A Hard Day's Night,' at the Dorchester Hotel in London, 1964.

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    Cat 12-05-2009

    A father has a great responsibility to be there for any child he brings forth into the world. For John Lennon to say "this one was an unplanned child, and this one was" to justify is coldhearted behavior shows me he was an immature putz. Selfish, arragont and self-worshipping he must have been. NOONE SHOULD BE MAKING ANY EXCUSES FOR THIS KIND OF BEHAVIOR whether it is John Lennon or some ordinary JOE.

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    gbirdforeverat 12-05-2009

    Agreed, bro.

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    Patat 12-05-2009

    Hey.....I was told all my life I was unplanned (just like my other siblings)

    Believe it in my case. Mother was 42 and dad was 52, youngest child was 9 and oldest 23.

    Whether I was unplanned or not I know I was loved. Not only by my parents but 5 older sisters and brother and their spouses.

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    PaPat 12-05-2009

    And a mother has a personal responsibility not to dump on her ex in front of the child or write a book . Mothers in this day and age are more aware of the trauma a child experiences when you voice your anger about the father.

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    Cat 12-05-2009

    I agree with you PaP about the mother's needing to restrain emotions and certain actions for the sake of their child's well-being. You are correct. But when you compare the two things, YOU CANNOT COMPARE a mother dumping on an irresponsible father to a father PLAINLY DEGRADING HIS OWN SON'S WORTH by saying that he does not matter as much as his second son. I can't imagine ever sitting down in front of anyone and saying something like that and actually knowing my child would actually hear those words. IT IS COLDER THAN COLD AND DISGUSTING.

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    pkat 12-09-2009

    Agreed. Some parents don't deserve their children. John by many accounts was one of them. He humiliated his son beyond that one public remark. Julian said he witnessed the same behavior emerging toward Sean. It wouldn't have been all that rosy for him either. Forgiveness is a little vague, often just a pretty bromide, which only serves to cover things up. The trick about coming to peace with things like this, is to realize it was about HIM, not about you. But that's some trick, it can take a lifetime to master it. Does it always resolve in "forgiveness?" I don't know. Maybe the person just becomes less important, once you see it straight.

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    Patat 12-05-2009

    Julian, Many of us have very sad childhoods. It truly affects you in your adult life for sure in every aspect. You can only think how does a parent not love or want me? as a result, you think that no one can love you cause the parent did not. I lived in an opranage for several years before it was finally shut down...thank God!!! My adopted mother dies shortly thereafter. At 16 I was alone and knew nothing about life. I stayed in high school, got a job and an apartment. I made so many mistakes, but they were lessons learned the hard way. I was angry at God and everyone else for allowing me to hurt so much when I did nothing wrong. Why did God hate me so? This I lived with daily and for decades...

    You have to get to a place of peace inside, forgiving all and know that for some reason God wanted you here. Once you LET IT GO, then things start to change. You have to get to a place of self love first and then the world opens up to as never before..only then.

    Still I often wonder why I was given away and how a person giving birth could toss me away like their garbage. I have to keep forgiving them over and over so I do not stay in turmoil.

    This is the place it sounds like you are at. You must love yourself since you lacked that feeling from your father. I know how it is when you want your parents to love you so much that it gives much happiness. Since that did not happen, you can only hope that somwehre they realized how they had been and pray they forgive themselves as well.

    I always wanted a family like the Brady's or even Ozzie and Harriet. it seemed so perfecrt. For some reason it was not meant for me. Now, in my 50's I must be grateful for my life and that i made it to this point. Which I am.

    What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. Forgiveness is the key to achieve inner peace.

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    Connieat 12-05-2009

    I know what you mean, and have a similar experience , I wish that we could all forgive and let go, I think Ive forgiven but letting go ...not yet

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    Patat 12-05-2009

    Connie Unitil you forgive these people they own you -they are only human beings who use their personal capabilities to survive, be bigger than them and forgive everyone for abything. Don't let anyone own you.

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    APat 12-05-2009

    Good to hear Julian has come to terms with everything. The icing on this cake is that we're going to be getting some new music from him soon. I've always enjoyed the music he's made so far, and it's been too long since we last heard from him. All the best wishes to him!

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    libbyGat 12-05-2009

    I am happy for Julian and Look forward to his new CD. We have missed his music. I hope he is at peace and moves forward in a positive way. He is on a great road to recovery. Bravo.

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    Terryat 12-05-2009

    Julian,

    I am happy to hear you are working on finding inner peace. We cannot choose our parents or magically become the parents like the Brady bunch, we can only try to do better. If you have kids or plan to have them, use your life as a learning experience to ensure that your children never know that you love them and are there for them. Like they say, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. You cannot change the past but you can change the future by how you live your life. Your father, just like millions of other parents, made alot of mistakes with you that he probably regrets now. This is not to excuse him but just look at the fast life he was living filled with drugs, etc. I would not hold onto anything painful he may have said since at times I am sure he was out of it. If not, he just did not know how to be a father and he lost so much by not being in your life as much. You also must remember that he had some bad influences around him, people, one in particular, that I am sure felt threatened if you were around. Your father, not the strongest individual, allowed her to control him and keep you out of his life. A person who is so insecure and sick who tries to separate a child from thier parent is just pure evil and will one day have to face their maker and pay. Divorce is one thing but taking a child away from their parent is another. She is old and will die so what about your relationship with your brother. In the end , it will only be the two of you, your father's sons who will be here. I hope you are close or plan to work on being close. You could help each other because I know that he also feels the loss of your father especially since he was present in his life. You see Julian, you are probably the stronger one. I read about Sean and he appears like a lost Momma's boy, controlled by his Mother as your father was. He is rich and will be richer when his Mom dies but what has he accomplished? His Mom probably has everything to say from the color undies he wears to the women in his life. Little Boy lost.
    Glad to hear you are moving on, healing. I can recall that when bad things happened to me and I was filled with anger, a relative told me that the best way to take revenge on someone is to become successful which I did. Let go of the anger, step back and look objectively at the troubled soul your father was and forgive him. He was human and he was weak like us all. also, don't try to be your father, make your own music. Have your own measurement for success and be at peace with it. Just look at the bad things that happen to people when they become too big. It is almost as if there is some sort of curse associated with too much success which doesn't necessarily makes someone happy, life gets too complicated. I like the "success" I have made in my life and I am not trying to control and conquer the world. God, Family and a love of myself is all I need in my life. Money too but I don't want too much so I have to hire lawyers to watch over lawyers and wonder who my true friends were.

    Julian, best of luck, make your OWN path in life, be yourself and be damn with everyone who doesn't believe in or like you. You don't owe anyone, anything !!!

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    Alexat 12-05-2009

    I read once (at the time it was happening) that John Lennon's estate was at $600 million dollars when he was sadly killed. Yoko got most of that and Julian, his son, got $100,000. That's just wrong.

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    marieat 12-07-2009

    Julian, wow, seeing you all grown up now! I remember pics of you as a little boy. Time sure has a way of going around fast.

    I am a G-Mom. I was 10 when the beatles came out. LIke millions of others, I was crazy about them. At least until they AND their music changed. No offense but I never cared for them after that.

    I think what your father did to you was terrible but I'm glad to read that you've reached a point in your life where you're able to forgive. That shows a great deal of maturity & compassion for I can imagine how difficult that must have been.

    And to Pat, please don't feel the way you do about being put up for adoption. My husband and I adopted our son at birth. Both he & our natural daughter are the light of our lives and we are so very thankful God brought him to us.

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    jbjg24mat 12-05-2009

    just "LET IT BE"

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    momhaditat 12-05-2009

    Michael, If Shawn was such the favorite, why hasn't he picked off the Musical Industry? I tought, also that John was with Yukoo till his dying day. SHE ruined the Beatles all by herself, she and her addictions. She is probably the reason Julian is "less" than Shawn. I bet she fought over any of Julian's inheritence, too. Julian looks so sad in the picture where Paul is holding him; does that not say what a sad little boy he'd been. I'm glad he came to terms with his dad. I did that, and it isn't easy.

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    gennieat 12-05-2009

    You're an ass Michael, and that is as classy as I can keep it.

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    Kristin Leeat 12-06-2009

    Who is Judith? My b-day is October 9th, like John's. Actually, is Julian's also October 9th?

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    jinxerat 12-05-2009

    at least the kid got some money. the kid looked sad even in those baby pictures. OLD JOHN had a fatal flaw. He was impressed by "smart " people . He ended up married to a fake artist . He just had to move to NY , where all the cool artists were. HE WAS JUST A SIMPLE GUY WHO HAD A SKILL FOR WRITING CATCHY TUNES. HIS GENIUS ENDED WHEN HE LEFT THE SONG WRITING WORLD, THE JINGLE WORLD. JULIAN HAS TO REMEMBER THAT THE OLD MAN WAS A LITTLE SOFT IN THE HEAD. OLD JOHN SHOULD HAVE STAYED IN ENGLAND AND HE'D BE ALIVE TODAY, MY ADVICE-STAY WITH YOUR OWN KIND , DON'T LET THE FAKES AND THE FLAKES TAKE ADVANTAGE OF YOU. A MAN COMMUNICATES WITH HIS KIDS, HE WAS TOO BUSY FARTING AROUND IN NYC. TRYING TO BE SOMETHING HE WASN'T

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    Michaelat 12-05-2009

    WOW YOU NAILED IT!

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